Below are a list of useful embedded commands used frequently by hypnotists who actually know a thing or two about hypnosis. Feel free to leave a comment if you have any examples I can add to this list.
And its easy to…Go deeper into trance…
As you begin to…Relax further…
In this deep state you can…Find yourself…
If you listen to… You’re unconscious now…(Notice the ambiguity –you are unconscious now – your unconscious)
Deep with you’re mind will…Find the solution…
When you…Look within…
Would you like to…Go into trance…sitting or lying?
It’s easy to…Sink gently…
And when you…Feel that relaxation grow…
As people…Pay attention to me…they find that
What happens when you…Focus? (command tone)
After you…Listen carefully
In this depth of trance you can comfortably…Make the changes
And when people…Really learn…
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Using NLP and Hypnosis in Seduction (For Men and Women): Embedded Commands
Relationships can give you some of the most exquisite experiences life has to offer. It's such a shame that many people lack the confidence and communicative skills to get over that intial boundry that prevents them being with someone they like. With hypnotic language patterns like embedded commands you can communicate at a much deeper level than the majority of people out there. Use them wisely. Use them ethically. And above all, make the other person feel great because that's what will have them coming back for more.
I was confident that I could…Feel interested (point to self)…in this film
I don’t know if…you like me…are interested in (said normally this would be ‘I don’t know if you, like me, are interested in’)
It’s easy to…Feel attracted…To the highlife
And then she turned round and said to him…sleep with me now…and although he was shocked he couldn’t help but…be drawn in…by her.
And he said to her ‘what’s it like when you…feel horny?
As I’ve matured I’ve found it easy to…Be open to new ideas
Not everyone has it in them to…Take risks.
When you watched the movie could you…Sense the excitement…before it happened?
Looking at all those cars it was really easy to…Notice attractive qualities (point to self)
And then trough the writing you could tell that the main character began to…Sense the arousal
I was trying to get the cat to…Play with me.
When I was a kid I used to…Feel naughty all the time.
I read somewhere that you should visualise your goals. For example you should…Imagine your dream person (point to self).
As ever this is an evolving process so leave a comment with any suggestions you'd like me to add to the above list.
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I was confident that I could…Feel interested (point to self)…in this film
I don’t know if…you like me…are interested in (said normally this would be ‘I don’t know if you, like me, are interested in’)
It’s easy to…Feel attracted…To the highlife
And then she turned round and said to him…sleep with me now…and although he was shocked he couldn’t help but…be drawn in…by her.
And he said to her ‘what’s it like when you…feel horny?
As I’ve matured I’ve found it easy to…Be open to new ideas
Not everyone has it in them to…Take risks.
When you watched the movie could you…Sense the excitement…before it happened?
Looking at all those cars it was really easy to…Notice attractive qualities (point to self)
And then trough the writing you could tell that the main character began to…Sense the arousal
I was trying to get the cat to…Play with me.
When I was a kid I used to…Feel naughty all the time.
I read somewhere that you should visualise your goals. For example you should…Imagine your dream person (point to self).
As ever this is an evolving process so leave a comment with any suggestions you'd like me to add to the above list.
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Monday, November 16, 2009
Using NLP and Hypnosis to Build Rapport: Mirroring
Rapport is a remarkably simple process. Despite this many people still get it wrong and for those who get it right the rewards can be life changing.
The truth of the matter is we are drawn to people who are either similar to ourselves or who we consider to be very charismatic. We feel comfortable around what we know, so if someone is reflecting back to us behaviours we ordinarily use we will unconsciously feel far more comfortable around them. Have you ever noticed how close friends talk the same way with the same inflections and word usage? Even stranger, there is a phenomenon called 'synchronous menstruation' where menstruation cycles of women who live together long enough tend to change. I personally know a girl who lived with 4 other girls during university who experienced this.
The trick, with building rapport, is to copy, as subtly as possible, the rhythms of behaviours another person displays. As the person leans back in their seat you lean back a few seconds later, as they pick up their drink you pick up your drink, and then watch as they follow as you lean in. If you think you will get caught out then think again. You do it all the time with the people you are close to, the difference here is that you can now create a far more relaxing situation with those you don't know. Also, I've practiced this for years and have had nothing but success. I should add a little tip, one of the most effective ways to build rapport very quickly is to match their speech patterns. Speak at the rate they speak and they will feel more comfortable with you.
Before you start mirroring you must ask yourself 'what is it I want from this situation'? I look around me and see nothing but a sea of overweight, miserable, lazy adults. These are people who have rarely, if ever, asked themselves that question and as a consequence they float through life in no real direction bouncing off the very obstacles and frustrations they have created for themselves.
Why do you ask yourself what you want? Well, how can your unconscious/conscious mind know where to take you otherwise? Have you ever walked a familiar route only to realise that you can't remember making the journey because you've been day dreaming the entire way? Well my question to you is who took you there safely if you weren't paying attention? The answer, of course, is your unconscious. What else could it be? Why did it take you there safely? Because, in reality, your subconscious is there to help in anyway it is physically capable. It regulates your heart beat, temperature, and even shuts your eyes for you when a fly is about to bang into them before you're even aware of what is going on. So to go anywhere in life you must know the destination first.
How is this relevant to rapport? Well how will you know how to approach a social situation if you don't know what you want from it? If you want to build rapport with someone, a love interest for example, then it goes without saying that you should mirror them. If you want to be seen as a leader amongst the group, and trust me when I say there isn't one situation where there isn't a 'leader' of some sort, then naturally you will attempt to build rapport with the leader. But to be honest, all of this is much of a muchness. Building rapport is easy; very easy in fact. The overall goal of mirroring, however, isn't to just build rapport, but to lead.
My question to you is this (and disregard the slightly cheesy aspect of it), if Brad Pitt began speaking to you and a group of others what would happen? Would they recoil in disgust? Would they ignore him? Or would they be compelled to seek his approval and begin mirroring him? Of course there are other possibilities but I'm guessing the last would be the response from the majority of people. So good old Brad wouldn't have to move a finger and he'd have people clamouring to follow him. So if Brad can do it why not you?
With that let's shift, for a while, or forever, our frame of mind. You might be saying 'yeah but Brad Pitt's rich and good looking and I'm not, so how can I do that'?! It's surprisingly straight forward actually! The feelings we experience minute by minute are rarely a choice. Every single thing around us carries some form of emotional/psychological weight for the individual. No matter how bland the object it will still have some effect on us. The same exists for the behaviours we see displayed by other people. If there is someone we feel strongly about we will often tie in some of our feelings to their mannerisms and find ourselves feeling similarly to people who display the same mannerisms. So let's take Brad again. Look at his mannerisms. Don't you think his many millions of admirers won't have tied some of their emotions for him to some of his mannerisms? You'd better believe they will have.
So the trick is this to find out what it is you want from the situation. Once you know, discover the behaviour you need to display in order to achieve that goal and do it. Be flexible! If it doesn't work, try something else. Behavioural flexibility is key. Confidence in displaying those behaviours is also important.
Apart from what I've already mentioned I would like you to remember one more thing.
In any given context be aware of how people are responding to you. Don't be so unaware of how you come across that people see you as an ass. No one likes smugness or arrogance. Always be warm with people when you feel they deserve it and when your attention is else where they'll crave that warmth again. In the same vain, you must have the mindset that no one is important enough, except for your family, to demand all your attention all the time. No one! The more attention you give a person the more available you will appear and the less value you will give yourself. Diamonds are expensive because they are rare. The boyfriend who is always hanging around and sucking up to the girl is the one who is too available and underappreciated sadly.
This is true for any relationship you have outside of your family. Be the one whose time is rare and see how needed you are.
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The truth of the matter is we are drawn to people who are either similar to ourselves or who we consider to be very charismatic. We feel comfortable around what we know, so if someone is reflecting back to us behaviours we ordinarily use we will unconsciously feel far more comfortable around them. Have you ever noticed how close friends talk the same way with the same inflections and word usage? Even stranger, there is a phenomenon called 'synchronous menstruation' where menstruation cycles of women who live together long enough tend to change. I personally know a girl who lived with 4 other girls during university who experienced this.
The trick, with building rapport, is to copy, as subtly as possible, the rhythms of behaviours another person displays. As the person leans back in their seat you lean back a few seconds later, as they pick up their drink you pick up your drink, and then watch as they follow as you lean in. If you think you will get caught out then think again. You do it all the time with the people you are close to, the difference here is that you can now create a far more relaxing situation with those you don't know. Also, I've practiced this for years and have had nothing but success. I should add a little tip, one of the most effective ways to build rapport very quickly is to match their speech patterns. Speak at the rate they speak and they will feel more comfortable with you.
Before you start mirroring you must ask yourself 'what is it I want from this situation'? I look around me and see nothing but a sea of overweight, miserable, lazy adults. These are people who have rarely, if ever, asked themselves that question and as a consequence they float through life in no real direction bouncing off the very obstacles and frustrations they have created for themselves.
Why do you ask yourself what you want? Well, how can your unconscious/conscious mind know where to take you otherwise? Have you ever walked a familiar route only to realise that you can't remember making the journey because you've been day dreaming the entire way? Well my question to you is who took you there safely if you weren't paying attention? The answer, of course, is your unconscious. What else could it be? Why did it take you there safely? Because, in reality, your subconscious is there to help in anyway it is physically capable. It regulates your heart beat, temperature, and even shuts your eyes for you when a fly is about to bang into them before you're even aware of what is going on. So to go anywhere in life you must know the destination first.
How is this relevant to rapport? Well how will you know how to approach a social situation if you don't know what you want from it? If you want to build rapport with someone, a love interest for example, then it goes without saying that you should mirror them. If you want to be seen as a leader amongst the group, and trust me when I say there isn't one situation where there isn't a 'leader' of some sort, then naturally you will attempt to build rapport with the leader. But to be honest, all of this is much of a muchness. Building rapport is easy; very easy in fact. The overall goal of mirroring, however, isn't to just build rapport, but to lead.
My question to you is this (and disregard the slightly cheesy aspect of it), if Brad Pitt began speaking to you and a group of others what would happen? Would they recoil in disgust? Would they ignore him? Or would they be compelled to seek his approval and begin mirroring him? Of course there are other possibilities but I'm guessing the last would be the response from the majority of people. So good old Brad wouldn't have to move a finger and he'd have people clamouring to follow him. So if Brad can do it why not you?
With that let's shift, for a while, or forever, our frame of mind. You might be saying 'yeah but Brad Pitt's rich and good looking and I'm not, so how can I do that'?! It's surprisingly straight forward actually! The feelings we experience minute by minute are rarely a choice. Every single thing around us carries some form of emotional/psychological weight for the individual. No matter how bland the object it will still have some effect on us. The same exists for the behaviours we see displayed by other people. If there is someone we feel strongly about we will often tie in some of our feelings to their mannerisms and find ourselves feeling similarly to people who display the same mannerisms. So let's take Brad again. Look at his mannerisms. Don't you think his many millions of admirers won't have tied some of their emotions for him to some of his mannerisms? You'd better believe they will have.
So the trick is this to find out what it is you want from the situation. Once you know, discover the behaviour you need to display in order to achieve that goal and do it. Be flexible! If it doesn't work, try something else. Behavioural flexibility is key. Confidence in displaying those behaviours is also important.
Apart from what I've already mentioned I would like you to remember one more thing.
In any given context be aware of how people are responding to you. Don't be so unaware of how you come across that people see you as an ass. No one likes smugness or arrogance. Always be warm with people when you feel they deserve it and when your attention is else where they'll crave that warmth again. In the same vain, you must have the mindset that no one is important enough, except for your family, to demand all your attention all the time. No one! The more attention you give a person the more available you will appear and the less value you will give yourself. Diamonds are expensive because they are rare. The boyfriend who is always hanging around and sucking up to the girl is the one who is too available and underappreciated sadly.
This is true for any relationship you have outside of your family. Be the one whose time is rare and see how needed you are.
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Using NLP and Hypnosis in Sales: Embedded Commands
Following on from the previous posts on embedded commands here are some more NLP/hypnotic embedded commands. Using hypnosis can drastically improve your sales so play with the below language patterns, notice how they dramatically improve your sales and visit here again for more sales patterns. Some of these may only be used in copywriting, some on the phone, and some only in particular industries but as ever…be creative… and see what works.
SALES.
By (buy) now…you may have realised how important…(notice the ambiguity)
When you…Use this material…you will…notice its quality.
After you…read each word…you may enjoy
I’m not asking you to…Feel good about the product…before trying it.
After trying this product myself I was desperate for people to…follow my lead
you can choose to… act now
only if you want to…change your life…should you
It’s easy for you to…become really interested
after using the product…you will understand
Suppose you…use this process…and…love it.
People can… learn quickly
I’m not sure if you want to…improve your results
Most people…say yes…after looking at the spec
We could…do it now…if it suits you.
tell me….
Before we allow people to…sign the contract…
Why should you…choose me (lower tone)
Some people find that they can…trust me…only after years of good customer service…but many find they can…do it sooner.
As always if you’d like to add to this list with a quick email then let me know.
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SALES.
By (buy) now…you may have realised how important…(notice the ambiguity)
When you…Use this material…you will…notice its quality.
After you…read each word…you may enjoy
I’m not asking you to…Feel good about the product…before trying it.
After trying this product myself I was desperate for people to…follow my lead
you can choose to… act now
only if you want to…change your life…should you
It’s easy for you to…become really interested
after using the product…you will understand
Suppose you…use this process…and…love it.
People can… learn quickly
I’m not sure if you want to…improve your results
Most people…say yes…after looking at the spec
We could…do it now…if it suits you.
tell me….
Before we allow people to…sign the contract…
Why should you…choose me (lower tone)
Some people find that they can…trust me…only after years of good customer service…but many find they can…do it sooner.
As always if you’d like to add to this list with a quick email then let me know.
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Using NLP and Hypnosis to Build Rapport: Embedded Commands
Have you ever wondered how you can easily create that deep feeling of rapport in others using hypnosis? If you haven't you're in for a treat. As you read my last post teaching how to embed commands you'll very quickly become aware of all the wonderful ways embedded commands can help improve almost all aspects of your life. Below are some examples of emdedded comands to help build rapport in others.
Practice, Practice, and Practice some more and then come and tell me how you got on.
BUILDING RAPPORT
Have you ever noticed how you can easily…feel comfortable…with certain people?
My old professor told me that people...become synchronised…with each other as they begin to…feel deep rapport.
I used to find it difficult to…trust people (point to self)…until I began to…feel familiarity… around them.
Multiple Embedded Commands
I was reading an interesting book that said when people…feel deep rapport…they tend to…feel very relaxed…and they…pay full attention…to what the other is saying.
When I met X a couple of years it was a very strange experience because until then I didn’t know how to…be truly fixated…in a conversation. We hit it off straight away and as we spoke I was able to…feel very at ease… I knew that it was ok to… be trusting…towards him and I was able to… free freely expressive…and although it was a new friendship a part of me was saying…'We’ll make great friends'.
Please email me if you have any other suggestions I could add to this post.
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Practice, Practice, and Practice some more and then come and tell me how you got on.
BUILDING RAPPORT
Have you ever noticed how you can easily…feel comfortable…with certain people?
My old professor told me that people...become synchronised…with each other as they begin to…feel deep rapport.
I used to find it difficult to…trust people (point to self)…until I began to…feel familiarity… around them.
Multiple Embedded Commands
I was reading an interesting book that said when people…feel deep rapport…they tend to…feel very relaxed…and they…pay full attention…to what the other is saying.
When I met X a couple of years it was a very strange experience because until then I didn’t know how to…be truly fixated…in a conversation. We hit it off straight away and as we spoke I was able to…feel very at ease… I knew that it was ok to… be trusting…towards him and I was able to… free freely expressive…and although it was a new friendship a part of me was saying…'We’ll make great friends'.
Please email me if you have any other suggestions I could add to this post.
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